Having someone cheat on you is one of the worst things that you can experience. Your trust is forever shaken and you sometimes wonder if you will ever be able to move on with your life. Rather than experience this in your relationship, do some sleuthing before you start dating that girl you’ve got your eye on and find out if she’s a cheater. There are many different signs and ways to tell if she going to be someone you can really trust, or if she’s the type of girl that will crush your heart!
Her Friends
It’s difficult to simply go up to a girl’s friends and ask them about their girlfriend. They will simply think you are strange and since they are her friends, they will likely tell you nothing but great things about her, so it’s hard to get an objective opinion.
But, you can hang out with her and her friends before you start actually dating. Do her friends like to go out as a group of girls often? When they go out, do they like to go to clubs where you know they are flirting and dancing with other guys? Are most of her friends in serious relationships or are they constantly on the prowl?
Simple questions like these will help you uncover a lot of information about your potential girlfriend. For example, she may enjoy a night on the town with her girlfriends more than a date with you because she enjoys getting attention from other guys. Even if she says that nothing more than flirting is going on, remember that it’s only a fine line between friendly flirting and cheating.
Her History
Most people end up dating someone that they know, either directly or indirectly. So, if that’s the case, it’s easy to find out more information on her history with other guys which can tell you a lot about the way she treats men.
For example, if she’s a serial dater, then chances are good she doesn’t take relationships very seriously. If she doesn’t consider you more than just a casual boyfriend, what’s to stop her from fooling around with other guys?
Also, it’s important to note if she has cheated before. Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. Of course, people change and so do circumstances, but don’t shrug off the fact that she was unfaithful in the past.
She’s Always Going Out
Some girls are simply social butterflies who can’t sit still. They always have to be doing something, from going out with friends, to heading to a house party, to hanging out at a bar. She’s bored sitting at home with you watching a movie and would rather go out with her girlfriends. If she tells you that you’d be bored coming out to the bar with her and the ladies and that you should just stay at home, you have every reason to be suspicious.
She Has Guys Hanging All Over Her
Girls that are constantly surrounded by guys who are obviously interested in her need male attention. Even if you are the most caring and wonderful guy in the world, it may just not be enough to satisfy her need for constant attention. If you aren’t enough to satisfy that part of her needs, what makes you think she’ll stick with you faithfully? Her bevy of guys will encourage her to hang out with them instead of you and will constantly flirt with her and latch onto her at every social gathering. If you have to ask yourself who she’s really with at a party, then it’s a good indicator that she likes to keep more than one guy on the leash at a time.
She’s Already Got A Boyfriend
Let’s say you just met this girl and were immediately attracted to her. All is going well – you asked her out, she said yes and you’re going to see each other soon. But then, she tells you not to call her at home to plan the date because she doesn’t want her current boyfriend finding out about you! Well, if there’s ever a sign that a woman can’t be trusted, that’s it! Sure, maybe she’ll tell you that they’re breaking up or separating or have an open relationship. Whatever the story is, don’t believe it because it’s your heart that’s on the line. If she’s really ending her relationship, then let her do that first and give you a call when it’s over and she’s officially single.
Her General Outlook On Relationships
There are some women who are involved in a serious relationship, but brush it off as just a temporary thing. A friend of mine has been with the same guy for over 3 years, but she rarely speaks about him, prefers going out without him because he “cramps her style,” insists that she will never get married, and believes that it’s almost impossible for couples to be monogamous. If the girl you are interested has a similar outlook and you are looking for a serious relationship that may become permanent, you should be wary.
By saying that people can’t be monogamous, she is really allowing herself an excuse for straying later on. She is leaving the back door open for that opportunity that may arise one time and when it happens, she can always say “she told you so.” But being warned of her tendency toward wandering is no consolation for a broken heart. Take what she says seriously before you simply assume that she’ll change her ways once she starts dating you.
Conclusion
There are no straightforward and guaranteed signs that she is or is not a cheater. But there are some clues that may suggest she’s got a tendency to let herself be led astray. Before you get serious, consider these facts and weigh them against how you feel about her. Sometimes all that talk of never settling down simply means that she’s afraid she won’t find Mr. Right. On the other hand, it may also be your fair warning that you are quite likely not her last boyfriend.
